Losing things lately. Why am I losing everything or how to deal with absent-mindedness
In the modern world, it is believed that signs are folk wisdom, the beliefs of our ancestors, based on the experience of previous generations.
However, as science and technology develop, new objects and things appear in our life, and along with them, signs about them appear. This once again suggests that the need of people for the magical, inexplicable and supernatural is very great.
Take for example signs about the phone... Although, of course, it cannot be called a completely new invention - for the first time the word "telephone" was used by the French engineer Charles Bursel. He also developed the very idea of \u200b\u200btelephony, outlining it in his dissertation in 1854. However, Charles Bursel never brought his idea to life.
In 1860, Italian inventor and scientist Antonio Meucci invented an apparatus capable of transmitting sound through wires. Western Union bought all the drawings from him and promised to assist in the registration of the patent. However, this was never done. Antonio Meucci filed an application himself, trying to patent his invention of the telephone, but it was not satisfied.
In 1876, Bell Graham was the first to file a patent, calling himself the inventor of the telephone. Antonio Meucci was sued for a long time, and only in 1887 did the US court still recognize that it was Antonio Meucci is the original inventor of the telephone and invented it in 1860 .
In the modern world, the telephone, having gone from a stationary device to a mobile one, has become an indispensable companion and indispensable assistant for every person. The loss of a mobile phone becomes a real disaster for its owner, both from the point of view will take a phone call, and from the material side.
Can I give a phone - signs
To the question: "Can I give a phone to a girl?" - modern signs answer that this gift often leads to a break in relations if the couple has not yet officially registered the marriage.
Young unmarried girl signs do not recommend giving a phone to your boyfriend - this promises treason, lies and deceptions.
If a wife will give a phone to her husband, then this predicts the appearance of his mistress, a tendency to "campaigns to the left."
Phone gift to wife promises her petty troubles, empty talk and gossip.
But if give a phone to parents or children, then this sign is interpreted positively. Such a gift will strengthen and improve family relationships.
Give a phone - the omen is mostly bad, but in order to avoid negativity, you can go to the store with the person to whom such a gift is planned. In fact, then money will be donated, and the person himself will spend it to buy a phone.
Signs about the phone number
A telephone number is a sequence of numbers, and therefore the magic of numbers extends to it, and the most common signs are associated with telephone numbers. Therefore, it is not surprising that when choosing, people carefully go through the lists of phone numbers in search of the happy one.
The combination of numbers "2" and "1" in phone numbers is considered a symbol of good luck, win, victory.
In China, for example, it is believed that a telephone number with the lucky number "8" will bring money and wealth.
In Russia, the number "7" is traditionally considered lucky.
Signs about the phone number are also advised to choose any harmonious combination of numbers. For example, where there are duplicate numbers.
However, many people find it bad luck to have a combination of several "threes".
The truest and worst omen about a phone number indicates that you cannot take a number that ends with "0". This figure will bring monetary losses, financial waste, emptiness and loneliness to the life of the owner of a phone with such a number.
General signs about the phone
If in the morning they called you three times and all three calls fell through, expect failures in personal affairs and business.
The sign of finding a phone is rather ambiguous. As with any thing, a magic ritual can be performed on a mobile phone to damage, evil eye, love spell and lapel. If the found phone was subjected to such a negative magical effect, then all the troubles of the previous owner will be transferred to the new owner.
It is especially dangerous to pick up a cell phone found at an intersection.
However, these signs apply to phones without a case. If you are lucky enough to find a phone in "clothes", then you can be sure that in the near future luck will accompany all undertakings. Problems will be solved, lost things and money will be found, and the lonely will meet their soul mate.
Losing your phone is a good omen, which means getting rid of something superfluous, unnecessary or outdated. The loss of the phone heralds the beginning of a new favorable period in life.
If the phone fell, it is a sign of scandals.
It is a good omen to smash an outdated and poorly working phone. She portends that new opportunities will soon open up in life. If an expensive, new mobile phone crashed, you need to prepare for troubles on the personal front, problems at work.
Dialing the wrong number by mistake means you need to beware of deception.
On Monday, signs are not advised to put money on the phone - they will be quickly spent. But if, being in the spring in nature, for the first time this year you hear a cuckoo and at the same time have time to look at the balance of your personal account, then until the end of the year there will be money on your phone account.
If you dial a number from your cell phone and get three call failures in a row, it’s better not to dial - you will not hear anything good anyway.
Making a mistake with a number that you usually dial without hesitation is a sign of gossip and gossip.
If, before the upcoming conversation on the phone, a crow loudly croaks nearby, it is better to postpone the call for later - now the interlocutor will not be happy with you.
Signs do not advise talking on the phone while standing on the doorstep or walking through the gate. Whatever is said, it will not be taken seriously.
If you drop something from your hands during a conversation on the phone, you will soon get a headache.
A blue phone will protect you from the evil eye, a red phone will deprive you of harmony and inner balance. A green phone improves physical health and well-being. The purple mobile feeds its owner with empty hopes.
A pin stuck into a mobile phone case protects against damage.
If the phone charger is constantly lost somewhere, it means that you are expecting a quick change in your life.
Absent-mindedness is a lot of hassle, so it's not a minor flaw.
Without lost tickets, there may be troubles at the control, the loss of the wallet will put you in an awkward position when buying, and the lost keys promise the prospect of staying overnight with a friend. Let's try to find out what it is for and what it means.
Masha is confused not on her own
Memory gaps are natural, as we often do several things at the same time. But this is not the main reason for absent-mindedness. Perhaps such a trait was inherited from your ancestors. Perhaps, as a child, you imitated one of the parents who suffered from this "ailment."
Sometimes losses have deep psychological roots. Victoria often lost money, things, became a victim of pickpockets. She also had difficulties with work, a lack of understanding of how to live in general. Before that, she dated a guy for two years. Oleg was gentle and caring. Finally, he presented his girlfriend with a ring and offered to become his wife. The lovers applied to the registry office, and after a couple of days the bride and groom decided to swim in the river. Oleg went into the water and did not return ... Vika called the police, she called the divers. They furrowed the entire bottom, but did not find the body. The bride toured morgues and hospitals, but the guy fell through the ground. The shock of the disappearance of the groom began to manifest itself in her in constant forgetfulness. After all, the loss of things is an attempt by the higher powers to remind that a person has suffered a serious loss.
After 7 years, the girl went to Germany, to Oktoberfest, and in Munich she met ... Oleg by chance! He admitted that he just ... escaped from under the aisle, staging a drowning.
Everything can be more prosaic. The secretary girl was afraid that she might be fired. On vacation, she was waiting for a “fateful” call from her boss for several days. As a result, I lost my mobile. After all, subconsciously, she connected the phone with the experiences she wanted to get rid of.
Things, ay!
So, you are puzzled and worried - where did the right thing go? The whole house was turned over, but there were no results. Why? Yes, because you are conducting an intense search with a feeling of irritation and indignation at yourself. It is the desire to find the loss at all costs that brings the search results to zero. There is a saying: "You want a lot - you get little!" The principle of balance operates in the world: if in one place it arrives, then in another it decreases. And if your desire to possess the item you are looking for has exceeded a reasonable measure, higher powers will not let you find it! Therefore, in order to find the right item, you need to calm down. After that, the intention of searching will not disappear anywhere, it will simply work apart from your thoughts and aspirations. And after a while, you will accidentally discover what you have lost. After all, you are not tied to the result, but calmly do other things.
Advice - if the search is not going on, relax and calm down, take up something else. You will soon find that your problem has resolved itself.
Life without loss
To avoid losses, make friends with things. That is, start treating them more emotionally. We handle objects that we love very much more carefully.
Train your ability to remember. Do this exercise every day: go to bed in the evening, close your eyes and remember your day to the smallest detail. This way you will learn to focus on what you want to do.
Begin to be discerning. Try to understand what caused the loss and try to avoid such situations in the future.
If the loss occurs again, don't blame yourself. The more you reprimand yourself, the more you will feel confused and alone. And you don't need it!
10 most lost things
Every hidden thing predicts something!
Earring- bad news.
Ring - to parting with loved ones.
Clock - to failure in business.
Jacket - to the scandal.
Products - someone gets a job at your expense.
Keys - the house will be robbed.
Purse - the plan will not succeed.
Mobile phone - to a quarrel.
Belt - to an unexpected pregnancy.
Glove - Unfortunately.
A trifle, but nice ...
Keys, wallet and cell phone are important little things. Here are some tips on how not to lose them.
Choose a specific place for these things, for example, near the front door on the nightstand. Remove other items from there: pieces of paper, expired receipts, other junk.
Put your wallet, keys and cell phone in this place and always try to leave them there when you come home. In order for the action to become a habit, it must be repeated for 30 days.
If you find yourself leaving things where they are again, immediately put them back in the chosen place.
You will not find in any textbook of the school curriculum the answer to the question "How to deal with absent-mindedness?" To this you may be prompted by the desire to understand - "Where do things disappear in your apartment?" There is little funny in this, except in Marshak's poem about an eccentric man from Basseinaya Street who, through his inattention, found himself on the same platform several times.
Gloves, umbrellas, phone, keys, jewelry - all this is lost at lightning speed, just have time to follow and buy. To overcome distraction and inattention, you need to understand the reasons for their appearance and finally pull yourself together.
Why are we losing everything?
As a child, you could give yourself some slack and write off your absent-mindedness to hovering in the clouds. But adulthood requires us to descend from heaven to earth, no matter how we mind. Needless to say, lost rights threaten with a considerable fine and big problems with traffic cops, lost apartment keys - calling a locksmith and buying a new lock, losing a phone - access to your personal information, including bank cards.
According to neuropsychologist Chris Moulin, some people are inherently more absent-minded than others. Add to this external factors, such as the frantic pace of life, routine, multitasking, stress, fatigue, high employment, and you will understand why we often lose something. At work, you have to think about several things at once, trying to solve work moments, everyday problems, household chores. Naturally, the brain forgets unnecessary information - where did you put your phone and whether you took an umbrella with you.
Psychologists also distinguish two types of absent-mindedness: imaginary and genuine. In the first case, forgetfulness is attributed to excessive concentration, when a person devotes a lot of time to something specific, forgetting about minor details. Professors, executives, scientists, businessmen, politicians often suffer from this type of absent-mindedness. In the second case, absent-mindedness can be caused by health problems: overwork, diseases of the respiratory system and nasopharynx, neurasthenia, psychosis, chronic fatigue, lack of sleep.
How to stop losing things?
The first step is to figure out whether you are an absent-minded person on your own, or is it caused by external factors. Maybe you just need to have a good rest so that a clear mind and a sober memory come to replace the clouding? Along with rest, start taking B vitamins and folic acid. Meditation as a way to train your memory is also fine.
Refuse to do several things at once. Do just one thing, not get distracted by other less important activities. You need to start execution only after a clear, well-thought-out plan of action, saying it to yourself - it will take time, but you are unlikely to forget what you wanted to do.
Put everything in its place. It is a very wise decision to put each thing in its place. So you do not have to remember where you put your passport or keys yesterday and put things in order in the house. Create special boxes for documents, checks and invoices.
Block all attempts of the brain to switch to something else and try to be in the clouds. Think up conscious situations and associate objects with specific actions.
Do not save up things by putting them off for later. A task has appeared - complete it. A lot of unfinished business clogs memory, scatters attention and prevents you from focusing on important things.
Use hints and reminders. Set your smartphone to remind you of an important date or event. At the right time, they will work and remind you of the case.
In order not to forget things in minibuses, hospitals, subways, cafes and other places outside the home, adhere to the following recommendations:
Do not put anything in your pockets - they will not replace your bag, but the phone can easily fall out of your pocket. You can also forget about the contents of your pockets and send the thing to the wash - then money and documents will be irretrievably damaged;
Check the integrity of the bag lining;
Do not make everyone look for something in your purse in plain sight (usually this happens on public transport when you need to transfer money for travel). Prepare small change in advance;
Think of things in their place: keys - small inner pocket of a handbag, wallet, phone and passport - inner compartment with a zipper, work pass and metro pass - in the back pocket;
Be sure to put everything in a bag or bag as soon as you stop using the thing. We got on the bus, closed the umbrella and put it in a bag; they took off their gloves - into a bag, talked on the phone - do not turn it in your hands, but put it in a bag, paid for the trip - a wallet in a bag, etc.
Make friends with things. It sounds, of course, strange, but according to statistics, we often lose things that we don't feel anything for (or even worse - we hate). You treat your favorite things more reverently, you will double-check their presence 100 times. Buy an expensive and beautiful wallet, a funny keychain, a stylish cane umbrella. You will not notice how you love things and stop losing them.
Their absent-mindedness might have seemed amusing if it hadn't been so much trouble. Vacation will not take place without plane tickets. Lost keys become a problem for the whole family. “Today I do not lose things so often, but I have suffered a lot because of my absent-mindedness,” confesses 37-year-old Olga. "The most unpleasant memory has to do with school: I managed to fail my annual math test because I lost my keys the day before and couldn't get home all day before my parents arrived."
At first glance, it may seem that this is just disorganization. Relatives, friends and colleagues reproach such a person for being indifferent to the demands of real life and do not trust him with important matters. But, if you look more closely, psychological reasons can be hidden behind the absent-mindedness.
Forget unnecessary
Many people forget or lose things from time to time. And this is not surprising, because forgetting is a natural mental process.
“Our consciousness is constantly influenced by a powerful flow of information, and because of the threat of oversaturation, it leaves many facts unattended,” explains French psychoanalyst Gerard Pommier. “Therefore, we do most of our usual actions mechanically - we put the keys in our pocket, put our mobile phone in our bag - and we don’t even realize it.” Yet some of us lose and forget things more often than others.
"I didn't want to commit myself"
Victoria, 29 years old, logistics
“At work, I constantly lost all sorts of little things: either I leave the keys to the office or the safe at home, then I can't find a notebook with business records, or I forget my wallet in the dining room. At first, I treated this with irony, considered absent-mindedness a cute feature, and laughingly told about it to colleagues and friends. But at some point I noticed that they didn’t seem to take me seriously: at work they gave me an interesting project to a colleague, a friend once said that she wouldn’t trust me even for an hour with her child. And then I realized: absent-mindedness, all these losses and forgetting - just unwillingness to take responsibility for your life, fear of any obligations. Realizing this, I became a more pedantic person, and now my things are with me. In addition, the attitude of colleagues and friends towards me has changed for the better. "
Unravel unconscious messages
“For a long time my husband and I could not agree where to go on vacation. I wanted to go to the sea, and my husband wanted to go to the mountains. In the end, I gave in, but the trip almost fell through: the day before departure, I lost my plane tickets, ”says 32-year-old Anna.
“Often, a lost thing can be viewed as a symptom that reveals some of our problems, an internal conflict,” explains psychoanalytic psychotherapist Tatyana Drabkina. - This thing is most likely associated with that area of \u200b\u200blife (work, home, relationships with people) where we feel insecure, where something worries us a lot, does not satisfy. For example, having lost tickets, Anna unconsciously tried to inform her husband that the upcoming trip did not suit her, that her needs were not taken into account.
We tend to forget or lose things in a stressful situation or when we are absorbed in what worries us. But as soon as we begin to realize what exactly worries us, absent-mindedness disappears.
What to do?
Make friends with things
An easy way to become more mindful of things is to invest emotion in them. Buy a funny keychain, beautiful wallet. We tend to be more careful with the things we like.
To take the responsibility
Thinking that we are losing things due to random circumstances (“I got angry at work”), we shift the responsibility onto them and cannot influence the situation in any way. It is important to remember that the reason for our distraction is in ourselves, and the lost thing can symbolize some of our problem.
Ask yourself a question
It is helpful to ask yourself, "If the loss meant something, what exactly?" Listen to your emotions: somewhere on the periphery of irritation or confusion, you may find relief. It is this experience that can lead you to the correct answer.
What cargo did you want to get rid of? What worries you? Perhaps you internally reject this part of life, or, conversely, its value to you is so great that it causes anxiety that you cannot handle.
Do not blame a loved one who is prone to losing things, but also do not be lenient towards him. On the one hand, the more often you take part in the search for things, the more often you will be contacted with such a request. On the other hand, a loved one can make you understand in this way that he feels confused, lonely.
If you pull away, you are essentially not responding to the SOS signal that the person, albeit unconsciously, can afford. Be discerning and try to understand what is happening to him, what exactly he cannot tell you directly. And then react not to the symptom, but to the cause.
Our ancestors believed that every object has a soul. Therefore, if some thing suddenly began to behave itself "strangely" - broke, crashed or lost - it is no coincidence! In this way, she is trying to convey important information to us, to warn about something.
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